Thursday, June 15, 2006

If you're anti-gay, you're probably gay

So I had coffee with a gay guy last night! This was the first gay date I've had since the doc ... it's been a few months.

Ironically, the guy is Mormon. Ha! He was very pleasant and nice. I would love to get to know him better. However, I don't really want to get into a relationship quickly like I did last time.

I just can't get over the fact that I met another gay Mormon randomly. I was "browsing" for other gay men on myspace in my area, and he popped up. Then I looked at his hometown ā€“ UTAH! Gotta love it. I knew the odds were high that he was Mormon ā€“ he is.

I'm telling you: I think the gay ratio among Mormons is significantly higher than the general population's gay ratio. I could be wrong. I just think Mormons are way closeted about it.

In fact, I would bet my life that two of my good Mormon guy friends are gay ... but they are super anti-gay. It's weird. Actually, it's not ...

I picked up this really liberal-looking book the other day at Costco. I can't remember the title (something about how conservatism is ruining the nation). I'm always sucked into books that bash conservatives because conservatives like myself make for good jokes so often!

Anyhow, one of the chapters was on gays in America and how the ultra-conservatives are irrational about the whole topic. Anyhow, the book highlighted a study performed by the University of Georgia in 1996 (I made sure to remember all these details because I found it so fascinating). In the study, they took a random group of homophobic/anti-gay men and a random group of indifferent/accepting men. The men in both groups were self-proclaimed "straight" men.

The researchers hooked these men's penises up to the boner-detector thing that measures a man's sexual arousal. They then subjected the men to three types of porn: lesbian, straight, and gay. They found that the homophobic group of men was MORE THAN TWICE as likely to be aroused by gay porn as the non-homophobic group!!! HAHA!

Moreover, the researchers found that only 20 percent of the homophobic men showed "little to no arousal" to the gay porn!!! Those closeted, self-haters need to get a grip!

The point: if you're anti-gay, you're probably gay. The chapter in that book was classic. It literally had me laughing out loud in Costco on several occasions. If I could remember the name of the book or the author, Iā€™d mention it. Too bad. Whatever ... I'm sure this stuff is all on the Internet for the curious at heart.

By the way, I realize that the study may have been flawed. But for me, the study is hilarous and true!


Blogger Elbow said...

I know what study you speak of, and I agree that it's very interesting.

If I remember correctly, the author's last name is Adams.

And I also agree with the fact that there are probably more gay men in the Church than people think. I kind of have a theory that the Church breeds more gay boys than usual because of the expectations and societal norms that the Church sets up within the family unit.

Loved the post. I'm glad you found another gay mormon, I can't wait to hear how it goes.

5:37 AM  
Anonymous Foxx said...

You know, you spend so much time and energy hating yourself for being queer, it is only an extension of your self-justification to project that hatred on others who embody the pieces of yourself you loathe.

2:39 PM  
Blogger -L- said...

My favorite part of this post was "boner-detector". Nice. :)

9:52 PM  
Blogger Gay Mormon said...

Foxx, you left the most random comment ever. I'd love to hear how your comment relates to my recent post. I'm clueless. I don't like it when I don't understand other people's negative energy. Please expound.

2:17 AM  
Blogger Another Other said...

I'm very amused at the potential duality of what Foxx said. When I read it, I thought he was talking about alleged self-hating homosexuals who project that hatred on others by gay-bashing, as mentioned in the study. But, gaymormon's comment jarred me by making me notice that it just as easily could be viewed as a personal attack on him. Which is it? I have no idea... isn't English amazing? And doesn't that just show how easy it is to say the people we disagree with hate themselves, and that their divergent ideology is derived from that self-hatred as opposed to being a sound chain of logic? Good lesson about a potentially weak argument.

As for the study, GM, I can totally see its claims being the case. Good find. Very interesting.

5:31 PM  
Blogger -L- said...

Boner-detector. Hee.

9:42 PM  
Anonymous Chip Deffaa said...

Hi, Gay Mormon... I have a hunch that Foxx prolly wasn't directing any negative energy towards you personally (although his writing isn't as clear as it could be); I suspect he was simply trying to restate the thesis that you found interesting; his use of the word "you," I'm guessing, was not refering to you as an individual, Gay Mormon, but was his way of speaking of people (people who are homophobic are seeing in others are part of themselves they don't accept)... Amyway, it's always good to read your posrs. Hope you're well.

3:28 AM  

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